All thanks to God Ola. Super glad you got all the insightful and practical answers to your questions.

Please feel free to reach out anytime you have more questions.

God bless you!

The responses I got to my questions are really practical and straight to the point, and for that, I am appreciative.

Thank you to everyone who contributed.

I’ve taken note of the suggestions, and I’m sure things will be different as I find out my WHY and cultivate a heart of service to God.

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@Lao7 Thanks for this beautiful question o.

When I get to speak on this kinda topic, what readily comes to mind is marriage covenant.

If both parties know that whoever earns what does not really matter, and that both parties’ earnings are to be seen as a “single” earning for the family, it won’t matter if the woman is brining in more.

Cos, gone…

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I love the Daddy GO and the Minister’s story you shared. Learnt a lot from that. It further confirmed some things I have been meditating on lately: knowing WHY I do what I do.

I just made some business decisions that appear like I was expecting some kind of “THANK YOU” but didn’t get it, and I was bewildered for a…

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When you say external, who are you reffering to? If its your family, like your spouse, you may need to reevaluate your expectations. Like what were you expecting when you got married vs what you are getting now?

For some wives, they are not very expressive with their appreciation, but it does not mean they are not appreciative.

When I was in…

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Hey Ola,

Thanks for being so real! You need not to beat yourself up if you feel prayer ain’t the first thing that comes to mind when you’re in that situation.

We are all human, and we have our downtimes too. We created this space for this same reason: to ensure you have a place you can come and express yourself, get succor from fellow men who…

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I think it also requires a lot of quiet thinking….meditating on yourself not from a point of view of defending your actions…but from a place of ‘why did i do this/that’

The why lets you know if its goimg to be a one-off, something you want to continue or something you have to stop…and doing this helps you as a man to start developing…

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This is very insightful, thank you.

I’ve mostly taken this stance and ensured to be conscious of the fact that whatever I do, I do to the Glory of God and I am also always in remembrance that it’s God that has given me the ability to do anything in the first place.

My follow up question is: in those rare events when I’m feeling like I’m not being…

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Thank you, Ola, for asking this very important question.

Validation is a core part of any man and it feeds into every aspect of every man’s life and living.

From my personal experience, I have had to resort to understanding that there is actually no external validation that I can get that will fill that void in me as an individual. Only God…

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What are practical steps and ways for men to be more self aware.

I ask this because for the most part, I seem to have relied heavily on external validation and when I don’t get it sometimes it feels like I’m not wanted or my presence is not appreciated and I know that’s not true.

How do I become confident in myself and not rely on external…

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See perspective! So practical and true. @Toks sense choke for this comment! Thanks a lot for sharing that perspective.

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I dnt think it’s about sharing 50 50 In marriage, it’s relative and it’s based on financial capacity of both husband and wife. There are situations that earnings are not even equal so why 50;50 sharing?

In marriage I believe husbands and wives are one and mutual agreement should be reached in making such decisions.

@Adebiyi Amazing submission! So much wisdom packed in this perspective just like @NikkiB shared yesterday! Kudos People!

This is an interesting post. I don’t believe there should be a fixed formula for sharing expenses in marriage. Spending in marriage shouldn’t be stereotypical. The key is achieving financial alignment; understanding each other’s financial realities and what the marriage requires.

It’s truly not a one-size-fits-all situation. Once there’s…

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Thank you Adenike! Truly appreciate your candour. Can’t wait for more replies.

Personally, i dont think splitting 50-50 is best because there are a whole lot of other factors to be considered. However, I believe doing what works for the family is best, Marriage is too dynamic to be boxed. If families can do 50-50 without tension and with proper understanding that it is going to be all the way that is 50-50 chores,…

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We cannot wait to have people engage you in this very hot topic about marriage and money! Spot on! Thanks for asking, Eagle!